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Did You Really Have to Let the World Know He Cheated?


As most of you may know, I’m not a huge fan of sharing personal problems that you and your partner may be facing. I believe that it’s better to work things out in private without the interference of everyone. Over the past 2 weeks, I’ve been reading various articles about Tina Campbell of gospel duo Mary Mary who also has a reality show on WE TV. She basically came out and let the world know that her husband cheated on her. Apparently, 2 1/2 years ago he cheated and confessed earlier this year. I can’t help but to think “whose bright idea was this?” Did you really have to let the world know he cheated?

In my opinion, there are only three reasons someone would air their dirty laundry to the world Christian or not

Whoever he cheated with is about to tell everyone

Publicity for Season 3 of their TV show

You’re setting the stage for your divorce

As a woman who has dealt with a cheating spouse, I can say that there’s a reason behind her spilling the beans. It’s hard enough to deal with the fact that your husband cheated with a family friend, but then to have everyone know is a whole different can of worms. I can relate to her story because ours are quite similar. I would have preferred if people didn’t know, but in my case, I didn’t have a choice, she did. After spilling the details to Ebony Magazine, the singer stated:

Well since the article, the challenges have worsened. My hope turned into hopelessness & despair and I became unwilling to forgive and fight, until God showed me myself.

Maybe, your husband didn’t appreciate being put on blast to the world. That only adds fuel to the fire. I’m not saying he deserves some slack, but if you plan on working on your marriage, you have to think carefully about your actions. People will past judgements on you, him, and everything in between.

As someone who follows their show, I can pretty much say that Tina is not the nicest Christian in the bible.

My husband’s struggle, was with sexual immorality BUT I have struggled with anger, rage, unforgiveness, pride, just to name a few, for over 2 decades.

Do you think that some of this anger, rage, and unforgiveness spilled into their marriage at some point in time? Of course! Possessing these qualities will drive someone into the arms of another.

Sometimes things happen to us for a very distinct reason whether good or bad. It humbles us and pulls us down off the pedestal we have been on for years. As I have stated previously, people often do not change unless something drastic happens. Situations like this force us to examine ourselves, as well as, the person we are with. It is a very hard road to travel when you’re attempting to repair a marriage torn apart. I hope they can work things out.

Don’t be shy! Do you think it was a wise idea for her to go public about her husband cheating?



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8 Responses to “Did You Really Have to Let the World Know He Cheated?”

  1. Andrea says:

    It was totally unnecessary to share that information with a ton of folks in the public who find other people’s pain to be their entertainment. Sharing something painful can be very liberating but to be liberated doesn’t mean telling the world. Tell your sister, mother, a friend…Me, I would keep quiet unless my plan was to leave my husband. Very nice post. #BLM Andrea @

    • shauntee says:

      I agree Andrea, unless I had made a decision to divorce him and move on I would’ve kept my mouth shut and worked on my marriage in private surrounded by love ones who are actually concerned about me. Thanks for your comment.

  2. I’m not gonna lie, I wondered why she put this on blast like that, too. As if they don’t face even scrutiny, especially HER! I love their voices, but this Mary is slightly ruder (and selfish) than I wish she would be. Blame it on the editing lol.

    Yes, he was wrong, but no one outside of their family would’ve known about this had this article not come out. Even if it were two years ago…that’s still pretty fresh! Great entry!

    • shauntee says:

      LOL…I don’t know if it’s editing or not. I truly think she is slightly mean, but she did admit that she has dealt with anger issues for 2 decades. I agree keep it in the family! I love their music as well!

  3. Kita says:

    I think she spilled it before someone else did that is my only reasoning behind it she didn’t want anyone coming out with it before she did. It felt like a bomb dropped because it was unexpected. I could tell from the show that the two of them had an issue I could not quite put my finger on what it was until now….great post

    • shauntee says:

      Kita Yesssssssss!!!! It was totally unexpected! that could be the case! I think the phrase what’s done in the dark comes to light maybe have been her reasoning. Thanks for your comment!

  4. I honestly think that when people come out of the wood works with these type of stories they’re all publicity stunts. It kind of reminds me of how people constantly change their relationship statuses on FB. Who cares? Why can’t she just focus on her music and her family. Everyone doesn’t need to know.

    • shauntee says:

      Good point, It definitely wouldn’t surprise me if it was. I come to believe that people change their FB statuses more so for the benefit of their significant other after an argument. You’re right Who Cares? Thanks for your comment.

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