I was quite busy this past weekend, but I still found time to check out a movie while channel surfing at 3am. I ended up watching a movie on Netflix that streams through my TV. I decided to pick a romantic low-budget comedy called He’s Mine Not Yours, which was new to the instant queue feature on Netflix. So here’s the summary in a nutshell; woman has a decent boyfriend but apparently she has trust issues. He’s a firefighter who at one time was a ladies’ man but settled down with this chick and was getting ready to ask her hand in marriage. Even though her boyfriend is present and accounted for at all times, this chick has it in her head that he’s up to no good. She then hires this woman known as the “man stealer” to attempt to seduce him. After 2 failed attempts, the “man stealer” tells this chick that he is true blue and that she is a very lucky girl. So you would think this chick would be happy and glad that she has a good man on her hands. No, she wasn’t, she then tells the “man stealer” that she needs her to get on her job because she needs to be sure. All during the process this chick bitched, moaned, and constantly compared him to her sister’s husband who in the end turned out to be a cheater himself. I don’t even have to get into what a ticking time bomb this turned out to be and how trust issues can ruin a good thing. The “man-stealer” was a beautiful woman with a great vibrant personality. This chick needed to lie on somebody’s couch for allowing her to tempt her man.
I’m a huge fan of the motto “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it”. We all have a past, we all have done things in relationships and to others that we may not be proud of, but we learn from our mistakes and move on (at least some of us do). Regardless of our past, it does not dictate the future and we can’t effectively be with someone if we constantly think of what they’ve done in the past with other people especially if this person has done nothing wrong to you. We have to focus on the present and whether or not the present plays a part of our future. The past cannot be changed, edited, or replayed in any way. We cannot change who we dated in the past, who we had sex with in the past, and how many times we fuc*ed up. The lady in the movie was so focused on what her man did in the past before meeting her that she couldn’t appreciate the good man he had become. I could seriously slap this chick; in fact, I started to slap my TV screen hoping that she would get the big picture. Comparing your partner to someone else’s partner is just wrong. No one wants to be compared to someone else and no one wants to constantly be tested. Eventually, people get tired of being tested and say the hell with it. Remember this old saying, seek and ye shall find, if you keep looking for something that’s not there eventually you’ll find exactly what you’re looking for and will kick yourself twice. If you keep accusing someone of doing something eventually you speak it into existence. You spend so much time looking for faults in your mate until you neglect the faults within your own self.
At the end of the movie, this chick realized that she was the one with the issue and he accepted her apology and life was grand; typical happy ending. In reality, you could screw up a good thing that can’t be fixed and BOOM you’ve fuc*ed up a good relationship.
If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it ♥